Why doctors marry doctors..!

Yeah yeah...age factor, not completely though, compels me to write this blog after a very long time. Again not completely interested in the concept, but my parents want me to get arranged.

Previously, when I could not understand this shadi business (not that I still do), I observed that over 90% of the doctors actually marry a doctor. For my parents ease and my own preferences, I have completely no issues getting married to a non-doctor girl.

But the conversation down made me realize the fact that "Why actually doctors marry a doctor in general?

Family: So your son is a doctor..right?
Parents: Ya he is a doctor....(less they knew that what kind of a doctor I'm still)

Family: what is his age?
Parents: 27
(Family thinking: mmm...he must be old...good for our daughter, must be earning good by now and looking at the private practice sector these days, at 27 he must be earning atleast 1 lakh per month easily)
...who should explain them that doctors start making their comfortable living post 30 usually...

Family: So what specialty he has done?
Parents: He has done MD pharma
(since it is difficult to pronounce pharmacology, I suggested this simple word to my parents)

Family: Pharma? (eyes rolling)...kya apka beta davayiya banata hai? Does he owns a chemist shop or something?
Parents: No No! he is into business that is related to pharma industry.

Family: Business? You told us ki your son is a doctor? Isn't he practicing somewhere? in some hospital or something?
Parents: Actually he is a medical consultant for pharmaceutical companies. He told us he advises the companies and works as a medical advisor.

Family: Oh..is it? (thinking....never heard about it!!)
(now since even they might not be that much interested in what I'm doing only if I'm making some good money, the next question comes instantaneously)

Family: So how much is he earning?
Parents: Actually he has started his own business you see, and in business it is not fixed...but he told us that his company gave a good turn over last year.

Family: ok ok..we will get back too you on this...(thinking: this seems to be a very confusing match in the beginning itself)
Parents (among themselves): hamare beta aakhir kaar kar kya raha hai? kitna bola tha job lele...delhi me settle hoja...god knows what he is upto..."sigh"


Well yeah this is the usual difficulty that my parents are facing these days when they talk about me and my job to people who doesn't know ABC of medical profession. Of course it really does not matter to me that much, because they seem to be more interested in me getting married than I do and above all, I would anyway not like to get hooked to somebody who does not take any interest to know as what I do.


Now the next set of conversation, a hypothetical scenario so far, but would definitely set my parents at ease if the proposal is from doctor's family. And I'm pretty sure that the conversation would go something like that.

Family: So your son is a doctor...right?
Parents: Ya he is a doctor.

Family: has he done his MD?
(age question comes usually after this when you dealing with doctor's family; reasons we all know to core)
Parents: yes! he has done his MD in pharma...(pause)...

instantaneous response from family..."Oh you mean pharmacology right?"
Parents: (with a sigh of relief) yes! you guessed that right. It is MD pharmacology and he has topped in the university.

Family: what's his age?
Parents: he is 27

Family: he is just 27? when did he pass? which university/college? (trying to figure out if govt. or private)....
(we all know that learned doctors families usually don't entertain people who have given huge chunk of money to get MBBS/MD seats/degrees from private college as majority of them impart pathetic knowledge with hardly any patient experience)
Parents: he passed last year from goa medical college

Family: oh...(thinking: so he must have cleared entrance examination)..that is good....that means he did not waste even a single year of his life in getting into MBBS and MD as well?
Parents: no..he directly got admission one after the other post 12th.

Family: that's nice. So has he joined as a lecturer in some college or working as an advisor in pharma MNCs? We heard that there is lot of scope for medical doctors that side.
Parents: actually he was not that keen in teaching field. Though he was getting a very good job offer of 8 lakhs per annum in delhi itself, but he decided to start his own business

Family: oh....k...and what kind of business is that?
Parents: he told us that he is working as a medical consultant for pharma industry, that way he can actually be a medical advisor for multiple companies..he also suggested us ki this way he will be working for his own good and would grow his company gradually.

Family: that is fair enough but is he making good money?
Parents: ya so far so good...company put up a nice turn over last year and he is confident for the future also. He is paying a good rental of 15k per month for his mumbai flat and making a decent living for himself.

Family: really surprising that instead of getting a good package, he decided to venture out. That's pretty impressive
Parents: ya he keeps on telling us ki he has big dreams to chase and whatever he wants in life will always be out of his comfort zone, so he took a chance..

Family: that's good...anyways indeed it was pleasure talking to you...let our children meet...after all they have to stay together and not us...
Parents: ya sure..pleasure talking to you as well.

So, this is the basic difference and the reason as why doctors would like to marry a doctor..

Being a doctor in itself gives you a lot more professional compatibility with the other doctor that eventually leads to emotional stability to understand each other in a better way...

What choice do I have now?

"Wo to waqt hi batayega"!!